So that I can enjoy looking at you

 From Chapter 31: Visiting the Graves and the Deceased’s Seeing Their Visitors

وَقَالَ السلَفِي سَمِعت أَبَا البركات عبد الْوَاحِد بن عبد الرَّحْمَن بن غلاب السُّوسِي بالإسكندرية يَقُول سَمِعت والدتي تَقول رَأَيْت أُمِّي فِي الْمَنَام بعد مَوتهَا وَهِي تَقول يَا بِنْتي إِذا جئتني زائرة فاقعدي عِنْد قَبْرِي سَاعَة أتملى من النّظر إِلَيْك ثمَّ ترحمي عَليّ فَإنَّك إِذا ترحمت عَليّ صَارَت الرَّحْمَة بيني وَبَيْنك كالحجاب ثمَّ شغلتني عَنْك.

984) Al-Silafī has said, ‘I heard Abū al-Barakāt ʿAbdul Wāḥid ibn ʿAbdur Raḥmān ibn Ghallāb as-Sūsī in Alexandria and he was saying, “I heard my mother saying, ‘I saw my mother in my sleep after her death and she was saying, “My dear daughter, when you come to me as a visitor, just sit by my grave for some time so that I can enjoy looking at you. Then ask Allah to have mercy on me, because when you ask Allah to have mercy on me it becomes like a barrier between me and you, and then it distracts me from you.”’”’

 

[From the book The Opening of the Hearts (The Foreword Publications, 1442/2020), p. 344, which is a translation of Sharḥ as-Ṣudūr by Imam Jalāl ad-Dīn as-Suyūṭī.]